Dear #EPICSensitives, especially you Empaths…
I teach that we must master the art of choosing ourselves so that we are clear. This morning, I want to acknowledge that choosing yourself can be one of the most difficult things to do BECAUSE you are an Empath. This means you experience the emotions of those around you, so when you make a choice that goes against what they want, you are viscerally aware of their frustration, sadness, disappointment, anger, disgust, judgment, and fear.
This is often why Empaths lose themselves in others – they’d rather sacrifice themselves, than cause someone else pain. It is also why they have a tendency to attract unhealthy partners – they’re really unhealthy themselves because they continually negotiate themselves away.
To live a joyful life, you have to honor yourself first. And yes, sometimes others will have a very strong and negative emotional response to your choices. And yes, you’ll feel that. And yes, it will make you want to pick them first to make their pain stop, all while ignoring your own.
It’s double edged, I know. Pick yourself and they hurt, reflectively you do. Pick them, and they’re better, but you disappear. Either way, you hurt – either now or for a very long time, which will lead to disease and disorder in your body.
Choosing you first is rarely the easiest route. Recognizing that you DO have an emotional response because you have “let them down,” feel those feelings, and choose you still, IS the recipe for health.
You are designed for joy and love. The path there – albeit seemingly straight uphill, sometimes – IS paved with the choice to love yourself enough to choose you first.
It can be a difficult art to master. But the truth is, you are already a Master. You just have to remember that.
I love you. You got this.
